June is Blake’s birth month. June is also the month that I decided we had to have a second child. Almost a year to the day, he entered our lives.
Let’s start at the beginning. My pregnancy with Madeline was a piece of cake. I loved every second of it. Then I had back labor for two days before my water broke. Then I had to push for four hours. FOUR. HOURS. Then it took me over two weeks to be able to sit down without flinching. Then I had undiagnosed post partum anxiety. I was quite certain we were going to be “one and done”.
Don’t get me wrong, I loved everything about being a mom. My sweet little girl was, and continues to be, the love of my life. I just didn’t think I needed any more. I was completely content with giving this perfect little girl all of my love.
A lot of people would say things like “Oh, you’ll change your mind.”, and point out how close my brother and I are, and say “don’t you want that for Madeline?” And I’d say, “Oh, she’ll have cousins”
On June 29, 2013, Ben and I stood up in our friends wedding. The bride danced with her brother to “You’ve Got a Friend”, and I changed my mind right then and there. We had to give Madeline a sibling, a life long friend.
Blake was born on June 28, 2014.
So, all of those people I mentioned before? They were right. I did change my mind, and I did want to give that kind of bond to Madeline. I know not all siblings end up life long friends, but I also know what it feels like to have one that did, and I have to say, it’s nice to have that. My brother and I have a different understanding of each other. We have been through the same things, and although we are four years apart, growing up we were really close, and we still are today.
That’s not to say that only children don’t have that type of bond with people. That they don’t have lifelong friends who just get them. I just knew that I wanted to add one more little to our family.
There were a lot of things I was worried about leading up to Blake’s arrival, and the closer it got, the more panic attacks I would have.
Would I really be able to love another baby as much as Madeline? (Yes)
Would I be able to balance my time equally between them? (Eventually, yes)
Was this really the right decision? (Too late now, but absolutely)
Am I crazy for having them so close together? (Yes, but then no)
Needless to say, we couldn’t imagine our lives any other way. I will forever be thankful for my change of heart and the wonderful blessing that came out of it.
As Blake get’s older, and him and Madeline interact with each other more, my heart is so full with the sound of their laughter, with the way Madeline can get him to stop crying when nothing else will, the way they already take care of each other, the way Blake copies everything Madeline does, the way they hug each other, the way they fight with each other, the way I can already see the strong bond between them. Every single day I watch them, and thank God for giving me that moment on June 29, 2013, and I am so grateful I listened.
Moral of the story? Never say never.